Thoughts from my end

Obsidian is not the only one who has been through a lot realising his potential in a Ds relationship. I have had to bury my dominance throughout most of my life... never being too overbearing or strong, or else getting saddled with the title of bitch or as at my last place of employment queen bitch. I have always been strong, but have had that southern ideal of a lady beat into my head. Quiet, working behind the scenes, trophy wife kinda thing, always seen and not heard, not seen when the men were having their man talk, never bucking the system. One of the reasons my ex and I had problems was I was not dominate enough for him. I was still fighting those old ideals of being feminine with who I was, and the public ideal of a dominate. And I had problems admitting to myself what I wanted and needed.

As I began working on making me like myself and be happy with myself, my dominate nature started coming out more and more in everyday life as well as in my relationships. But those relationships were never what I was looking for.

I can honestly say I am happier now than I have ever been. I am able to explore things that I had to reject in the past and have fun doing it. *smile* and I finally have someone who enjoys recieving as much as I enjoy giving. I have no complaints about the rate of progression or the level of things. I have no problems with the way we work things out, or taking things slow to let obsidian know that I am not going to run him off. And trying my best to let him know that he is indeed worthy, of attention and affection, as well as being dominated.